The Problem with
Does Your State of Mind Manifest in Your Outer World?
What can you do about it?
Can you meditate with clarity while the room
around you is piled full of dirty clothes? Can you relax in a room before all
the weekly shopping has been put
away? Not easily. When you push through the clutter and do it anyway, it
tends to be exhausting. So much of your mind is focused on the mess that
everyday things become too overwhelming to complete. You feel
tired all of the time. It takes a lot of work
to pretend that everything is ok.
The things in our homes, and the way we treat them is a direct reflection of our inner state-of-mind. Boxes of items belonging to passed-over relatives are an
echo of the grief we hold for that person; not being able to let something ...
or someone, go, manifested in a physical way. When the spare bedroom becomes an
oversized junk-room you know you’re in trouble. The very name of the room gives
away the problem. Why would you spend good money to house items that you know
you don’t want or need?
Holding onto ‘too much’ of something is also often a way of replacing something lost at an earlier time in life. When Mr. Rabbit Ears goes missing as a child, you can be sure that the memory, even if fairly hidden on a
conscious level, is reflected in the toy car or collectable doll hoard you have
as an adult. We over-compensate; I know I did.
Imagine the financial burden of clutter in your home. You live in a bigger
house because you have items you keep but don’t use. The extra ‘stuff’ may be
filling your attic, your shed or
your garage. Maybe you have stuff everywhere? You’re paying rent or a
mortgage on part of your home where you can’t live. Then you are probably paying to insure these items. You have to keep
the area clean to prevent an infestation of rats or
bugs ... which may not be easy if you can’t get to your belongings easily.
If you feel stuck in your life, there’s a fair
chance that there is an energy-zapping cluttered area in your home. Clutter-clearing is a great place to start. Make a plan and gather a helper or two to
assist you (offer free food, it seems to do the trick!) Have
plenty of clean drinking water available – this is thirsty work. Use humor, and
give them permission to use humor too.
• Have dustbin bags, storage boxes and clearing equipment available.
• Your helper’s role is to hold the bag or place things
where you ask them (not to throw things away on
your behalf). Make it clear from the start that you are in charge of the
clean-up; you make the decisions.
• Label your storage with the words, throw, keep
and donate. Only use your dustbin bags for items you want to throw away.
Mistakes delay progress.
• Friends pick up items one at a time (or you can); make decisions quickly
rather than reminiscing over each item. Make a game of it. Place immediately in a bag or box and immediately
move onto the next item.
• Begin with obvious rubbish
(newspapers, broken or beyond-repair items) as this will give you confidence and help to create a rhythm.
• At the end of the task, ask friends to help you
move things out of the home right away. It’s tempting to bring things back in
again if you’re not careful.
Start with smaller areas and finish one job before
starting on the next. When you’ve
finished, give everything a good clean. Honor the space by bringing in fresh flowers, or spraying with aromatherapy oils (or a candle scented
with natural oils). A pretty rose-quartz or clear quartz crystals on the window will help to keep the energy high. You’ll feel energized and
clear headed. Enjoy your new space and in a few days when you feel the urge,
start again in another room.
Here are a few more ideas to get you started.
Carry a black bin liner with you around your home
and fill it to the top. Make sure you
empty waste paper baskets from around the house too (you might need two bags! Go for it!)
Charity Bag/Box Search
Carry a plastic storage box around the house and fill it with things
to donate to charity. Look in your wardrobe, your clothes drawers and your shelves for anything that fundraisers might be able to re-sell.
Tip everything out onto the worktop. Give away
duplicates; throw away corks, elastic bands etc and replace pegs and other
random items back where they belong. Wash drawer and replace items.
One fabulous healthy plant can look so much better
than half a dozen stragglers. Remove dead leaves, dried-up flower heads and droopy stalks. Change or top-up the soil if it’s necessary and feed/water. I place dried sphagnum moss on top of the
soil for neatness. If all else fails, treat yourself to new ones.
Your own clutter will always have a story behind it somewhere. You might know
what your stories are, or not. As I discover each new
habit of mine it made me laugh at the ridiculousness of it all; but trauma of
clearing the emotions around your hoard may make you want to cry. We hoard
because of trauma or loss, usually; the bigger your clutter pile the bigger
your issues! It’s true! (No judgments here). If you know your stuff holds a lot
of emotional issues, ask your doctor for help before you start. You might also
prefer to work with a professional organizer.
Your home doesn’t need to be perfect; mine isn’t. But a clean house which is fairly well organized, runs efficiently and holds
items your love and cherish, will leave you feeling refreshed and happy rather
than overwhelmed and burdened. Is your home zapping your energy? Give it some
Jacky Newcomb is the multi-award winning, Sunday Times best-selling author of An Angel Saved My Life and An Angel by my
Side. Be an Angel, Clear that Clutter is her first book on Clutter Clearing. Visit:
www.JackyNewcomb.com, findhornpress.com or local and online booksellers.