Solutions to Life’s Problems
The YES Frequency
a Positive Belief System and Achieve Mindfulness
Problems. They’re part of life. We try to avoid them at all
costs but the pesky things keep showing up! As the saying goes, “It’s not what
happens to you that matters, it’s how you deal with what happens.” But how do
we deal with what happens so we can move on to living our best life? How do we
not get angry, frustrated, overwhelmed and stopped in our tracks with life’s
It’s first about changing our minds. Changing the way we
look at things from the negative to the positive. From NO to YES. “The YES
Frequency” is about tapping into a positive energetic vibration that overpowers
all negative emotions surrounding those “bad things that happen to us.” This
powerful tool will help you develop the skills to cope with life’s challenges
so you can solve problems and find solutions easily and quickly:
1. Problem: How do I
boost my confidence?
Solution: It starts with YOU. Not how people treat you,
compliment you, are in awe of you or the opposite, people who criticize, insult
and dislike you. It’s not about a great hairstyle, best body, smoothest,
youngest face and biggest bank account. YOU have to get the confidence ball
rolling. When you tap into the positive energy of YES you will attract the
right people and the great opportunities.
You have to love you before others will. Think of life as
one giant mirror. It’s simple; we attract what we put out. And that is about
energy. When you have YES on your lips and in your mind, you’ll be a magnate
for abundance, love and all the good things in life. And then as you mirror
back all the positive energy, it grows and gets stronger.
When you’re confident, you will naturally want to take
better care of yourself inside and out. Create a mantra, a positive sentence to
repeat to yourself (and even aloud) daily. Develop a personal mission statement
and use that as a daily affirmation. Mantras and affirmations have a powerful
effect as they get imbedded in your psyche reinforcing a chemical pathway in
your brain. So why not ingrain your brain with YES?
2. Problem: How do I
get past my fear(s)?
Solution: The first step is to understand that we won’t ever
eliminate fear. It’s innate to have fear come up. It releases adrenalin, in
life or death situations, promoting a flight or fight response. But we’ve taken
fear to a whole new unnecessary level. (Probably from too much breaking news
and Googling diseases!) Know that this other kind of fear, the one that’s in
our mind, is a signal to us that we have lessons to learn.
What do you do? Walk toward it, through it and accept it
with open arms. Say YES to it. The worst part of fear is what it stands for (as
an acronym): false evidence appearing real. It’s the worry, the “as if”, that
expands our fear. When we face it and move through it, the fear subsides. And
you know what? Often the fear was not nearly as bad as we imagined. So saying
YES is the best way to minimize it. Then the payoff is huge. You become
stronger and believe it or not, happier for surviving it. You’re building your
YES muscle for the next great life experience.
3. Problem: How do I
find my passion and purpose?
Solution: It’s essential to say YES to a challenge before
you take steps to finding your passion and purpose. When you don’t know what
your passion is, the good news is that it already exists. It’s about finding
the passion within. But first you have to be open, and say YES to this path of
the unknown to get answers. Ask the question. “What is my passion?” and wait
for the answer. Then create a mantra or positive sentence about your passion
and purpose. Passion is about tapping into your intuition, paying attention
your gut — that all-knowing inside.
The YES Frequency is about paying attention to yourself and
your life. Just like finding a new career, this is about being open, to
allowing the information to appear. Start noticing what you are automatically
drawn to. What do you want to do when you’re not working? What books or
websites are you attracted to? Once you activate your YES Frequency, you’ll see
your passion everywhere. Know that you have a passion or many passions. And
your purpose? Just being alive is one giant purpose. Now what will you do with
4. Problem: How do I
create a new career?
Solution: The key is to know what you want. (not so easy!)
You may not know exactly what the job looks like. In many ways it’s just like
creating that love relationship. Instead of going on a search to find the
perfect career, start with an inner search — YOU. Trusting the frequency
experience of YES creates a powerful force inside you that can act as your inner
guide to that career. The YES Frequency is about believing and receiving. It’s
about being open to opportunities. Saying YES as they show up in your life.
Once you have activated the YES, start taking action. Start
with small steps like volunteering, or interning (obviously this depends on
your financial situation). You may have to start with once a week or once a
month to volunteer or intern. This does two things; it creates new experiences
with your passion and connects you with people who can help you realize your
dream career. Also surround yourself with YES-minded people and energy. Find
people with the career you want and make them your mentors (either follow their
careers or get to know them personally). Watch the TED talks online for
5. Problem: How do I
get out of credit card debt and get financially fit?
The first thing to understand is WHY you got into credit card debt in the first
place. Obviously things come up that may require us to go
into some debt on occasion. But most of us get into debt by spending beyond our
means. We have to ask ourselves, what is missing in our lives that makes us
need more stuff?
The good news is, it’s become chic and trendy to downsize
and simplify. Start saying YES to what you have and be grateful instead of
looking at the glass half empty, longing for what you don’t have. Happiness is
not having what we want; it wants what we have. Ask yourself what really makes
you happy. Chances are it is not really the new shoes or the new car.
If we peel away the “stuff” onion we can find the happiness
treasure. Stuff translates into experiences. We’re really after a feeling that
stuff gives us. Maybe there’s a less expensive way to activate that “new stuff”
feeling. Perhaps the new shoes and new car are about change.
So maybe we aren’t fulfilled in some other area of our lives
like love and purpose? And that does not require a credit card! Once we can
stop the habit of overspending and impulse buying we can stop the credit card
debt. Another YES step is to take action. Even little steps.
Start paying down the debt even if it is just a few dollars
more than your minimum (but the more the better!) You’ll feel good about that
step which will motivate you to keep going. (For extra help, there are many
support services to help consumers get out of debt) The key is to take YES
6. Problem: How do I
change my eating habits and get physically fit?
Solution: The key is to get into the YES and get away from
the NO and all the negative energy. Try focusing less on what you shouldn’t
have and more on what you want to add to your diet to get healthy and fit. Keep
it that simple. Once again it’s about getting into the YES Frequency. Seeing a
positive, not a negative.
Diets never work because they often begin with what you
can’t have, and what you must eliminate rather than focusing on incorporating
healthy eating habits. So what we end up focusing on is the lack. To develop a
more fit body, it’s about seeing exercise as a positive habit. Take tiny steps.
Start with a short walk, a hike or a class. That will
develop a positive feeling about moving your body and making you crave more
exercise. The key is to do something on a regular basis. Create a YES
affirmation and say it while you’re exercising. Living in the YES frequency
acts like our personal life coach motivating us toward the positive things in
life like healthy eating and daily exercise.
7. Problem: How do I
get out of a bad relationship?
Solution: A bad relationship is less about the other person
and more about YOU. It’s about the bad relationship you have with yourself.
You’re saying NO to yourself when you stay in a bad relationship. There are many
variables in the complex world of relationships, but we all know you can’t
change anyone else. But you can change YOU.
When you have tapped into that YES energetic field you’re
saying YES to you. When you do that you’ll start choosing wisely. You’ll stop
people pleasing and learn to please yourself by surrounding yourself with
healthy, satisfying relationships, personal and business. (Professional help
may be necessary especially if there is any domestic violence/abuse involved)
8. Problem: How do I
get into a good relationship?
Solution: First we need to change the often-asked question:
How do I find love? When we view it as a giant search, most likely we will
always be searching... out there. But the key is to look inside ourselves. To
be the one we are looking for. It is an important step in activating the YES
Frequency. In order to find love we must say YES to it. But it’s really saying
YES to ourselves. Then of course, we have to take action. To put ourselves in
That may mean online dating, finding creative ways to meet
people, doing what you love. Believe and receive. It’s all a journey. Once
again it’s saying YES to ourselves first. Tapping into the YES Frequency makes
you a magnate because you’re now open to possibility. And you will attract the
right relationship for you. The question to ask is, whom do I want to go on
that life journey with?
9. Problem: How do I
navigate the dating scene after divorce?
Solution: This is a great time to tap into your YES
Frequency. After you’ve given yourself time to heal from the pain of divorce.
It’s important to give yourself time to heal. To discover or rediscover
yourself. You want to be very careful of who you attract. When you tap into
your YES energy you leave yourself open to love. It’s important to know who you
are and anchor yourself.
If there’s ever a
time to be open (but cautious) it’s in this situation. Think of dating after
divorce as an adventure to meet new people. Having NO EXPECTATIONS will take
you a long way. This is about the journey not the destination. And who knows?
You might find the best relationship ever (or at least the best stories!). And
this is a great opportunity to practice your YES Frequency skills every time
you step out on a date!
10. Problem: How do I
get over the fear of aging?
Solution: Think of a time when you were your happiest;
falling in love, on a great vacation, getting fantastic feedback on a job well
done. The world stopped, right? You loved every second. You were carefree.
Worry free. And most importantly, living in the moment.
When we are completely present, we are not worrying about
life passing us by, about getting older or what the future will hold. When we
focus on our age, we miss out... on life. We have no control over the passing
years, but we do have control over how we live those years. This is about
saying YES to life. YOUR life. By focusing on the inside and developing that
powerful YES Frequency, instead of seeking out the latest cosmetic options,
you’ll develop that ageless inner energy as the years pass. That’s where our
true fountain of youth exists. So release the fear and live life.
Quinn is the founder of the Touchstone For Life Coaching Certification
Program, which trains, transforms and empowers individuals to create fulfilling
lives. His teachings have been embraced by people from all walks of life
including entertainers, athletes, and corporate leaders.
highly-regarded Celebrity life coach, television producer and intuitive, Gary
travels worldwide for seminars, private coaching sessions and television
appearances. Visit: www.garyquinn.tv
Gary will be doing a
YES Frequency book signing Sept. 12 from 6:30 to 8:30pm at Mystic Journey
Bookstore in Venice, CA, (310) 399-7070. Free.
He will also present
The YES Frequency workshop at Awakenings Center for Conscious Living in Laguna
Hills, CA on Sept. 28 from 10am to 5pm. (949) 457-0797. Admission $85 prepaid,
$100 at door, or $150 for two.