Removing the Obstacles to Happiness
Rebecca L. Norrington
Relax, take a deep breath and
think. What is stopping YOU from being happy? What is stopping you from being happy ALL THE TIME? Grab a pen and paper and list
your obstacles to happiness. Answer the question from your soul. You are the only person who has the
answers and you are the only person powerful enough to create a Life that will allow Happiness to flow your way effortlessly.
First of all, there are ONLY two ways to live... Unconsciously or Consciously.
Admittedly, the majority of my life was spent in
an unconscious state. When you live
in an unconscious state you are dependent on a
variety of events or circumstances including others to “make” you happy. The stock market, your political
preferences, a below-average golf game, an inconsiderate driver, the weather, your health, a rude cashier, a forgetful spouse, an
anorexic bank account are a few examples of things that, according to you, determine what type of day you are having. I have labeled countless days “bad” or “good”
depending on what’s “happened” to me. Sound familiar?
If circumstances or events didn’t match my
expectations then my day was shot to hell... every time! Emotions like aggravation,
irritation, impatience, anger, sadness, moodiness, to name a few,
ruled my life. I was the Queen of discontent!
When I began living consciously, my life changed dramatically. But what does “living consciously” mean and more importantly how do
we accomplish living consciously 24 hours a day, 7
days a week? Is being happy in every waking moment even possible?
I say YES it IS
possible! And I am living proof.
First of all, living consciously means thinking
and behaving differently than you have in the past. Living consciously is one
of the most important elements to maintaining and sustaining Happiness!
Example: You’re driving the freeway and someone hastily and without warning
cuts in your lane which causes you to swerve to avoid an accident. Most would
react to this situation in an unconscious manner. How would you react in this same situation? Your answer determines
whether or not you respond consciously or not. Would
you offer them the middle-finger salute and let the expletives fly? If that response sounds familiar or similar to how you would respond, then you are reacting unconsciously.
And if you are reacting unconsciously, then you are not choosing your responses. And if you are not choosing your
responses, you become a victim of your circumstances. And when you’re a victim
of your circumstances... maintaining and sustaining Happiness is impossible.
Think about this. When you respond to anyone or
any circumstance in an angry manner does that create more happiness or less
happiness in your Life? The answer is LESS.
Whenever you express anger, impatience, intolerance, judgments, sadness or other related emotion, you are subtracting from your happiness. More importantly, you actually begin to attract MORE of the same toxic emotions into your life.
You can’t be angry and happy at the same time. You have to choose one. During ANY circumstance, you have the power to choose how you want to
feel. It is really that simple.
What are some different emotions you could choose in that same situation? I am glad you asked!
Let’s use the same example of a driver cutting us off in traffic but this time
let’s imagine an empathetic reason why someone would drive in this way. In other words, under what circumstances would you forgive and excuse a driver for cutting
you off? Are you able to come up with a plausible reason? If so, you are
beginning to think differently.
If you’re stuck, let me be of some assistance.
What if the driver just received a phone call saying that their child, mother, husband, wife, best-friend or grandparent was just admitted to
the emergency room in a hospital 55 miles away? Can you imagine how you would
drive with that kind of news? Your focus would be to get to your loved one as quickly as possible. Yes or yes?
Would you have reacted to them differently if you
KNEW their circumstances? Of course you would! So the next time someone
“disrespects” you in traffic; don’t take their behavior personally because it’s
not. To be clear, I’m not condoning
rude, reckless or inconsiderate drivers. What I am saying is if your PRIORITY is Happiness, then you have an obligation and a responsibility
to consciously choose your reactions in a way that
doesn’t subtract from your happiness. Get it?
Practice! Practice! Practice!
And, you will be HAPPIER... GUARANTEED!
Rebecca L. Norrington has a Bachelor of Science degree in
Psychology, along with decades of education and training on topics from
Spirituality to Human Behavior. RealitySpirituality can be heard LIVE every
Sunday at 7:00 AM (PST). For more information visit: www.rebeccanorrington.com and www.realityspirituality.com