Know the Male
But Keep to the Female
the Inner Relationship
Joanne Young Elliott
Our world is out of balance. Masculine energy is
used more often and revered more than feminine energy. In order to get back
into balance we need to live in such a way that we know the masculine energy,
but mostly keep to the feminine.
I saw a form of the phrase “Know the male, but
keep to the female” about seven years ago in a book on Buddhism. It is also in
the Tao Te Ching. I knew it was a profound piece of wisdom and ever since, I’ve
tried to live by it.
Before I continue here are some of the ways of the
feminine that I believe are important.
In order to live this wisdom it is important you
acknowledge that feminine energy has value. We live in a culture that values
masculine energy more than feminine, so look at the feminine energy descriptors and know that these
are important ways of being in the world.
Our day-to-day life is often filled with activities that use masculine energy. Even a woman who is a stay-at-home mom tends to
use a lot of masculine energy. Think about it. She plans, chauffeurs, organizes, shops, pays bills. This is all active, masculine energy. It’s the energy that
dominates our culture, but things have been
changing. Back in 1996 research into the corporate leadership styles of women
and men found women’s sharing style of management — once scorned — allowed for more effective communication.
Though working from masculine energy has allowed
us as a culture to accomplish many things, maybe we’ve done so too fast.
Without the feminine energy we act immediately on ideas. We forge ahead using active masculine energy. There is little gestation in between the feminine act of having an idea and the masculine energy used in making it manifest in the world. The idea is born
prematurely. We need to know and use the masculine energy, but keep to the feminine in order to regain a balanced approach to life.
How does one do this? Practice. I’ve outlined a
week-long schedule to help you get into the feminine energy groove.
Sunday: Today live in a space
Accept situations and people for where they are in the moment. Don’t be in a rush to do something or dismiss someone.
remain open to different ideas, views, and ways of doing things. Step out of your comfort zone for a while.
Remain receptive today. This is a hard one, especially for women who
are caretakers. Today let yourself receive care. Say
yes if someone offers to help you or better yet, ask for the help that you
Wednesday: Creativity is feminine, especially the gestation aspect of it. Instead of logically approaching a problem, brainstorm ideas and sit with a
possible solution for a while. Don’t be in a big rush to solve the problem or implement an idea. Given time you will see more
possibilities and have a stronger platform from which to implement.
Today take some time to connect with a neighbor or friend whom you don’t often see. Collaborate with a co-worker on a project so
that you can save time and add more value. By strengthening connections you’ll be able to better do
your job and enjoy life more.
answers? Try to approach questions intuitively. You do know what you want; it’s just a matter of getting quiet and
tapping into that inner wisdom.
Saturday: Nurturing is about caring for someone or something. Spend time
in your garden today. Pamper your spouse. Be there for your child by nurturing their gifts. And of course
spend some time taking care of you.
The common thread is that feminine energy is slow.
It’s the kind of energy that waits for answers, allows things to sink in and
gives time to all things so that they may heal or come to their full potential.
Remember this practice is to help you get used to using feminine energy more
often and not a way of life in and of itself.
You will find that you need to use masculine energy throughout your day as
well. As the title says, know the male, but keep to the female.
Joanne is a Science of Mind Practitioner in Training, an Ordained Priestess of Ma’at in the Fellowship of Isis, and a student of the world’s wisdom traditions.
Mindfulness meditation has been a part of her practice for over ten years. She
lives the life of a poet and
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