What Is a Soul Mate?
By Jenny Smedley
people automatically think in terms of a partner, chemistry, a
life-long union, so they are often disappointed, because this is not
always the case. People also often believe that there is only one soul
mate for them in the entire world. This is inaccurate too. It’s
possible to have many different soul mates of different kinds.
What kinds of soul mates are there?
are opinions on how many kinds of soul mates there are, everywhere you
look, but my experience has made me believe in four main kinds:
is what most people picture when they think of perfect soul mates. This
is someone who feels like half of you. Whenever they’re absent, your
life almost seems to go ‘on hold.’ They know what you’re thinking and
they offer you total unconditional love. There will be no battlefields
— maybe minor skirmishes as both parties have to learn lessons, but
this partnership truly embodies the cliché that together, two people
are greater than the sum of their two parts.
will be no unfaithfulness, because this love they feel goes right down
to soul level, and it will be impossible for them to hurt each other,
and indeed they will never desire another anyway.
not everyone will find this kind of soul mate in every life they live,
because the strong dependency that can be formed isn’t always a good
thing, and might not be right at this particular stage of our
existence. Because of this we may live some lifetimes apart from our
Eternal Flame, just to make sure that we learn to rely on ourselves and
not on someone else.
TWIN SOUL MATES
soul mates are one step down, in a way, from Eternal Flames, and can be
the most confusing type of all, because love is certainly and obviously
there between them. They can be very alike in many ways. They seem
familiar right from the first meeting, and indeed they are familiar,
because you will always have known them before, in other lifetimes.
They make you feel comfortable, because in a past life they were
probably your friend or partner and it’s tempting to think you can just
take up where you left off with them. It’s an instinctual pull, and
sometimes it’s right.
this is where the trouble can come, because often they are just there
to help you out, and often not meant to be your lifelong partner. Not
realizing this, and perhaps being pressured to commit by social peers,
you might marry this twin soul and then further down the line find you
need to part. Or you can be meant to be partners for a short time,
perhaps to create specific children, and once those children have been
created the need to be together fades.
TEACHER SOUL MATES
There is a saying, ‘When the pupil is ready, the teacher will appear,’ and it’s very true. Soul mates of this kind will some-times come
into our lives, usually temporarily, to enable us to learn something
vital to our soul’s progress. They won’t normally be a partner, but
this can happen. The relationship can be challenging and difficult, and
the lesson can be harsh. However, once the les-son has been given, this
person will sometimes vanish as mysteriously as they appeared, and this
can cause upset and con-fusion.
COMFORTER SOUL MATES
people can step into your life, sometimes to just say a specific thing,
or bring comfort and companionship when you’re feeling alone, or need
some advice to help you make a tricky decision. They’re often lifelong
friends once they appear. They think the same way as you and are always
there for you, but you never see them as potential partners. They’re
often the opposite sex, and yet there is no sexual chemistry between
you. This is a true platonic relationship, and this kind of soul mate
isn’t even always human.
During my work as an international columnist, the most common questions I’m asked by far, are
ones like: Who is my soul mate? Will I ever meet my soul mate? How can
I tell if I’ve met my soul mate? Did I know my soul mate in a past
life? Why did the man/woman I thought was my soul mate leave me? Do I
have more than one soul mate?
Jenny Smedley is
a qualified past-life therapist, angel intuitive, best-selling author
of 20 books on all matters spiritual and an award-winning lyricist. She
has appeared on numerous TV and radio shows and is a regular columnist
in four magazines in three countries. Her advice has been sought by
many over the years on the subject of soul mates, and she has been able
to direct them in their quest to find true love. Jenny was recently
voted, ‘Favorite Angel Intuitive’ in the worldwide 2013 About.com
Awards, winning with an amazing 69% of the total votes. Find out more
at www.jennysmedley.com Published by Piatkus, “Soul Mates” is available in bookstores worldwide.