Heartbreak and Healing
By Dr. Bradley Nelson
Day is a time for celebrating love, but what if you have lost
someone you love? Heartbreak is not just an expression for the strong emotions
we feel surrounding loss. It is a very real
condition that can damage your health and even lead to premature
death. A recent study in the UK found that bereavement doubles a person’s
chances of dying of a heart attack or stroke.
You can probably remember a
time in your life when you thought your heart was going to break. That
sensation may have felt like an elephant were sitting on your chest, or that
you couldn’t breathe. These are common
physical sensations that result when your heart — the core of your
being — is suffering from a deep trauma.
ancient world, the human heart was thought of as the seat of love,
the seat of the soul, the core of our being, and the source of our creativity.
New research is beginning to reveal that the heart functions more in these ways
than we have imagined. For example, heart transplant recipients often report
strange symptoms, including changes in their music,
food and entertainment preferences, as well as handwriting
changes. Some even reported receiving memories that were not their own.
There are thousands of
stories of “cellular memory” like these. How is this possible? The answer may lie in new technological
developments. It has been proven in the laboratory that your heartbeat becomes instantly measurable in the brain waves of
another person when you are focusing love
and affection on them. There is an invisible communication going on
between us that we had never been aware of before.
When you are experiencing
deep grief, hurt or loss, it may be
interpreted as an assault on the
core of your being, on your heart. These feelings of heartbreak can
be so uncomfortable, so foreign and so difficult to deal with, that they often
result in the formation of an energetic “wall”
put up to protect the heart from further injury.
Miranda is a perfect example of how a “heart-wall” can interfere with a love life. She was
an attractive 38-year-old nurse who came to me suffering from neck pain. During
the course of my examination, she mentioned that she had not dated anyone in
years and had no interest in having any kind of a relationship with men
anymore. When I tested her, I was not surprised to find that she had a
years before, Miranda’s heart had been broken in a relationship with
a man she had deeply loved. In an effort to protect her heart from experiencing
that kind of pain and injury again, her subconscious mind had created a heart-wall.
Miranda’s case, three lingering emotions had been trapped in her body
all those years, blocking her from
experiencing a loving relationship. She had no
idea that these trapped emotions were the major underlying
cause of the pain she was experiencing in her neck as well.
Her neck pain had been going on for some time, and was considered chronic
and even a bit mysterious by the other doctors
she had consulted, as nothing seemed to relieve it.
One by one, we cleared each
of these emotions.
I didn’t see Miranda again
for about three months. When I did, she looked
incredibly happy. I asked her what had changed and she excitedly said, “Everything!” She reported that her neck pain was long gone. But there was
even better news than that.
“Right after I saw you
last,” she said, “I ran into my childhood sweetheart. I hadn’t seen him since
elementary school. But it turned out he had been living around the corner from
me, less than a block away for almost eight years. We started dating and something really sparked between us.
We’re in love! I think he’s going to ask me
to marry him.”
The woman who had come into
my office complaining of neck pain and swearing off of men was gone for good.
She was like a completely new person.
heart-wall is released, people sometimes say it’s like they can finally feel again. They can give and
receive love freely for the first time in a very long time. In that state,
very interesting and wonderful things can happen.
In addition to bereavement
and loss, the inability to forgive is a major cause of sadness, depression and loneliness. Here are
three steps you can take to heal the heart:
a letter to the person you need to forgive. It helps you
express angst and negativity that might be in your soul about yourself or
another person, even if you don’t mail the letter.
the letter. Take the letter outside and light it with a
match, burn it up and send it out to the universe. That can really help you to
let go and forgive.
• Speak Forgiveness.
This can be telling yourself or another person whom you truly have forgiven
the one who has wronged you. This helps seal the forgiveness.
When we withhold forgiveness
we may think that we are getting even with the person who
hurt us, but nothing could be further from the truth. What we are really doing
is hurting ourselves. But when we allow ourselves to finally forgive our own
selves or that person who has hurt us, the end result is peace for us.
Dr. Bradley Nelson has lectured
internationally on the natural healing of chronic illness and, as a holistic
chiropractic physician, successfully treated patients from across the U.S. and
Canada. For more information, please visit http://www.EmotionCode.TV