Beyond the Grief of Losing a Loved One
By Tim Braun
It is inevitable that at
some time in our lives we will experience loss. We may lose a beloved spouse or
parent, a precious child, a treasured sibling or a cousin, a wonderful friend
or an adored pet. And we can never be fully prepared for it. The grief will
shake us to our core, confuse us, shock us, depress us and make us question our
existence. But does it have to crush our spirit? No! We can get through this
difficult time and move beyond our grief and even thrive.
How we go through the grief
process is as unique as we are and we must all find the path that works for us.
From rituals, bereavement groups, therapy sessions and alternative paths like going to a Spiritual Medium, a hypnotherapist or a healer.
They all can help. But it takes time to heal. Don’t rush it. The key is to move
through our grief and honor our path along the way.
The first step to understand
is that when we lose a loved one, our lives
change. After the shock, confusion, and deep sadness start to
lift as we go through the grief process, there can
be rejuvenation. But it is important to accept that you are
in a new reality. Life looks different now. There is a new relationship with
your loved one and yourself.
You will never “get over”
the loss. This is an experience that will live with you for the rest of your
life. But you can take this difficult time and create a positive outcome. You
can find a way to put your loss and the memory of your loved in a special place
in your heart that you carry with you from this moment on. If you try to just
“get over it” the grief process could be a much longer, arduous one, and the
healing a much bigger hill to climb.
To move beyond your grief
can be a journey of self-discovery — to see yourself and your life in a new
way. But, the way to move through and beyond the grief process requires that
you are open and that you take action.
Steps Toward Moving Beyond Your Grief
We can’t control the fact
that we’ve lost someone we love. And we can’t bring them back. But we can move
forward into a more peaceful state of being.
Surrendering is letting go of the pain so you can live in the present. Whenever
you feel that wave of grief, surrender to it. When you’re overwhelmed surrender
in your mind’s eye. Say, “I surrender.”
You may have guilt around your loved one’s death. You may feel responsible,
blaming yourself for not doing enough. We must remember that this was their
life’s path. To move through the grief it is important to forgive yourself so
you can free yourself to heal.
Connect with Your Loved
If you are open to the idea that their spirit is alive, there are several ways to connect with your loved one. Going to a Spiritual Medium is a
great way to do that. Many have found solace
in the messages they receive from their loved one on the “other side.” You can
also connect with them on your own,
in your daily life. The key is to send them love and light energy. As you heal
yourself through the grieving process you may find a deeper connection to your
There is nothing more
powerful we can do than meditation. It quiets the mind, energizes the soul and creates a more
peaceful state of being. It can be the anchor that gets you through your day. Find a meditation
that works for you, and practice it every day even if it is for a few minutes.
The grief you are
experiencing does ease with time. Take all the
time you need to get through this life challenge. Be gentle with
yourself. Surround yourself with positive, loving people and great experiences.
You may find that your heart has opened to a wonderful new life as you carry
the memory of your loved one forever.
Tim Braun is an International medium
and has conducted over 13,000 sittings over the past twenty years. He currently
lives in Orange County, CA and is a
graduate of the University of Southern California, where he
earned a BA in Interdisciplinary Studies. He has been lecturing and reading for private clients for more than
twenty years, appeared on radio shows throughout the world. Hollywood
celebrities, renowned athletes, and corporate leaders have embraced him. Tim has appeared on the TLC network television show,
Sin City Rules. Visit: http://www.TimBraun.net