How to Have an Invincible New Year
(this article is loosely based on the
just-released book A Year
365 Days of
By Tama Kieves
This year I want you to
discover what you can really have. It’s so much more than just accomplishing one goal. This year I want you to cultivate a
power and presence within you that allows you to choose your good all
the time. You are so much more than a few paltry
achievements, even if they sound like the moon to you.
said, sometimes, we have to want something, in order to spread our
great silver wings or discover that we have them.
As a career coach, I love to
use any goal as an excuse to part the veils, and tap into
I know you will have days
that throw you off course. But I want you to learn the skills of getting on
course, even more than I want you to reach just one particular goal. I want you
to adopt attitudes that release magic and velocity. The
secret of being invincible is learning practices in which nothing can defeat
you. It’s not about the goals you set, but the attitudes you employ.
success is inevitable. It is the outcome of
Here are 3 inspired
mindsets to help you get beyond your fears.
1. Choose Kindness Over Self-Cruelty:
It’s time to fire the Marine
drill sergeant screaming orders and shoving your face in the mud. Maybe it
works for a war. But it’s time to live in the garden. You will accomplish more through love than you ever will through fear.
Self-brutality may induce temporary changes,
but they are not sustainable results. I blazed
through Harvard Law School on the high-pitched drive of anxiety.
But I could not sustain that success. I suffered and eventually left the practice of law because it
was not my true love. Only love takes you all the way.
As you dare to stretch, be kinder to yourself than you have ever been.
Kindness reminds you of your unquestionable worth, no matter what you have
done, and then it encourages you to do what you came here to do. Kindness is not a
doormat, but a launch pad. Kindness gives you permission to try over and over without any
fear of failure.
Self-kindness allowed me to
tap true inspiration and clarity. And I
became a best-selling author and speaker.
Choose Again and Again:
Rigidity will break your
spirit. If you have to do something perfectly, there’s no breathing room for expansion. In life, you
are going to stumble. You are going to miss a workout or blow an audition. You
are going to bury your face in a bag of Doritos.
But that doesn’t mean you
can not be invincible. For me, invincibility comes
down to flexibility. It’s the willingness to begin again and again without
self-judgment. The present moment can heal
most anything. Get back on the boat. Choose
again. Drop the ball in Times Square all over again, ten times a day if
you need to, 10, 9, 8… I give myself a clean slate. It’s not weak to give
yourself chances. It’s dedicated. It means you want your goal.
the way, I found more peace of mind in losing my way and finding it again than
if I’d never lost it at all. I developed self-trust, knowing that even if I
tripped up, I could count on myself to come back.
3. Choose Dedication Instead of Dissipation:
If you do not dedicate yourself to something — you will never
experience the power of your spirit and full
potential. Commitment activates growth. When you dedicate yourself to your
truth you become alive and present. Your goal helps you show up or evaluate why you are not showing
up. There is no room for unconsciousness.
Dedication also helps you to realize you don’t
have to be in the mood — to be great. I’ve shown up to write feeling nervous,
tired, and hostile. I wandered around the blank page like
a raccoon rummaging for grub. I showed up believing nothing
good could come of the sop in my mind. And like many writers before me, I was
Dedication helped me to
ignore my ego, the guardian that strives to keep me powerless. On days when I felt absolute dread,
I still found myself slipping past the metallic vice, and discovering another
self, one who was weightless, giddy and skipping
towards the horizon.
been stunned to discover these capacities beyond my ordinary self-knowledge. We all house secret genies. We all have embedded powers
we have yet to set free. And we all let
familiarity talk us out of evolution. Sometimes it takes commitment to
discover the invincibility of becoming our
wish each and every one of you an
invincible new year. May you know courage and the
ability to walk yourself through anything — with love.
Tama Kieves, is an honors graduate of
Harvard Law School who left her practice to help others find their calling. She
is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! and Inspired
& Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! Her new book is A Year Without Fear: 365
Days of Magnificence. Featured in USA
Today and on Oprah Radio, she is a sought-after speaker and career/success
coach, who has helped thousands
worldwide to discover, launch, and
thrive in the life, calling and businesses of
their dreams. Visit http://www.TamaKieves.com and download her FREE Inspired Power