How to Have an Invincible New Year

(this article is loosely based on the just-released book A Year Without Fear:

365 Days of Magnificence

By Tama Kieves

This year I want you to discover what you can really have. It’s so much more than just accomplishing one goal. This year I want you to cultivate a power and presence within you that allows you to choose your good all the time. You are so much more than a few paltry achievements, even if they sound like the moon to you.

That said, sometimes, we have to want something, in order to spread our great silver wings or discover that we have them.

As a career coach, I love to use any goal as an excuse to part the veils, and tap into extraordinary power.

I know you will have days that throw you off course. But I want you to learn the skills of getting on course, even more than I want you to reach just one particular goal. I want you to adopt attitudes that release magic and velocity. The secret of being invincible is learning practices in which nothing can defeat you. It’s not about the goals you set, but the attitudes you employ.

Real success is inevitable. It is the outcome of beautiful choices.

Here are 3 inspired mindsets to help you get beyond your fears.

1. Choose Kindness Over Self-Cruelty:

It’s time to fire the Marine drill sergeant screaming orders and shoving your face in the mud. Maybe it works for a war. But it’s time to live in the garden. You will accomplish more through love than you ever will through fear. Self-brutality may induce temporary changes, but they are not sustainable results. I blazed through Harvard Law School on the high-pitched drive of anxiety. But I could not sustain that success. I suffered and eventually left the practice of law because it was not my true love. Only love takes you all the way.

As you dare to stretch, be kinder to yourself than you have ever been. Kindness reminds you of your unquestionable worth, no matter what you have done, and then it encourages you to do what you came here to do. Kindness is not a doormat, but a launch pad. Kindness gives you permission to try over and over without any fear of failure.

Self-kindness allowed me to tap true inspiration and clarity. And I became a best-selling author and speaker.

2. Choose Again and Again:

Rigidity will break your spirit. If you have to do something perfectly, there’s no breathing room for expansion. In life, you are going to stumble. You are going to miss a workout or blow an audition. You are going to bury your face in a bag of Doritos.

But that doesn’t mean you can not be invincible. For me, invincibility comes down to flexibility. It’s the willingness to begin again and again without self-judgment. The present moment can heal most anything. Get back on the boat. Choose again. Drop the ball in Times Square all over again, ten times a day if you need to, 10, 9, 8… I give myself a clean slate. It’s not weak to give yourself chances. It’s dedicated. It means you want your goal.

And by the way, I found more peace of mind in losing my way and finding it again than if I’d never lost it at all. I developed self-trust, knowing that even if I tripped up, I could count on myself to come back.

3. Choose Dedication Instead of Dissipation:

 If you do not dedicate yourself to something — you will never experience the power of your spirit and full potential. Commitment activates growth. When you dedicate yourself to your truth you become alive and present. Your goal helps you show up or evaluate why you are not showing up. There is no room for unconsciousness.

 Dedication also helps you to realize you don’t have to be in the mood — to be great. I’ve shown up to write feeling nervous, tired, and hostile. I wandered around the blank page like a raccoon rummaging for grub. I showed up believing nothing good could come of the sop in my mind. And like many writers before me, I was wrong.

Dedication helped me to ignore my ego, the guardian that strives to keep me powerless. On days when I felt absolute dread, I still found myself slipping past the metallic vice, and discovering another self, one who was weightless, giddy and skipping towards the horizon.

I have been stunned to discover these capacities beyond my ordinary self-knowledge. We all house secret genies. We all have embedded powers we have yet to set free. And we all let familiarity talk us out of evolution. Sometimes it takes commitment to discover the invincibility of becoming our true selves.

I wish each and every one of you an invincible new year. May you know courage and the ability to walk yourself through anything — with love.

Tama Kieves, is an honors graduate of Harvard Law School who left her practice to help others find their calling. She is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! and Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! Her new book is A Year Without Fear: 365 Days of Magnificence. Featured in USA Today and on Oprah Radio, she is a sought-after speaker and career/success coach, who has helped thousands worldwide to discover, launch, and thrive in the life, calling and businesses of their dreams. Visit http://www.TamaKieves.com and download her FREE Inspired Power Toolkit.